Sunday, December 8, 2013

Will we get wiser?

We will become more dependent  .We will become in some ways like children ? Can that  be  a good thing to not only feel like children but know also what being fully adult is too ? We will be ignored and thought a bit ..... well  like outsiders  .irrelevant , perhaps  Surely that's not a good thing ?
Let's think laterally for a moment about those we know who already live in that world ....and just for a moment . wonder on it .

GOD LIVES UNDER THE BED? 

I envy Kevin. My brother, Kevin, thinks God lives under his bed. At least that's what I heard him say one night. 



He was praying out loud in his dark bedroom, and I stopped to listen, 'Are you there, God?' he said. 'Where are you? Oh, I see. Under the bed....' 



I giggled softly and tiptoed off to my own room. Kevin's unique perspectives are often a source of amusement. But that night something else lingered long after the humour. I realized for the first time the very different world Kevin lives in. 



He was born 30 years ago, mentally disabled as a result of difficulties during labour. Apart from his size (he's 6-foot-2), there are few ways in which he is an adult. 



He reasons and communicates with the capabilities of a 7-year-old, and he always will. He will probably always believe that God lives under his bed, that Santa Claus is the one who fills the space under our tree every Christmas and that airplanes stay up in the sky because angels carry them. 



I remember wondering if Kevin realizes he is different. Is he ever dissatisfied with his monotonous life? 



Up before dawn each day, off to work at a workshop for the disabled, home to walk our cocker spaniel, return to eat his favourite macaroni-and-cheese for dinner, and later to bed. 



The only variation in the entire scheme is laundry, when he hovers excitedly over the washing machine like a mother with her newborn child. 



He does not seem dissatisfied. 



He lopes out to the bus every morning at7:05, eager for a day of simple work. 



He wrings his hands excitedly while the water boils on the stove before dinner, and he stays up late twice a week to gather our dirty laundry for his next day's laundry chores. 



And Saturdays - oh, the bliss of Saturdays! That's the day my Dad takes Kevin to the airport to have a soft drink, watch the planes land, and speculate loudly on the destination of each passenger inside. 'That one's goin' to Chi-car-go! ' Kevin shouts as he claps his hands. 


His anticipation is so great he can hardly sleep on Friday nights. 



And so goes his world of daily rituals and weekend field trips. 



He doesn't know what it means to be discontent. 



His life is simple. 



He will never know the entanglements of wealth or power, and he does not care what brand of clothing he wears or what kind of food he eats. His needs have always been met, and he never worries that one day they may not be. 



His hands are diligent. Kevin is never so happy as when he is working. When he unloads the dishwasher or vacuums the carpet, his heart is completely in it. 



He does not shrink from a job when it is begun, and he does not leave a job until it is finished. But when his tasks are done, Kevin knows how to relax. 



He is not obsessed with his work or the work of others. His heart is pure. 



He still believes everyone tells the truth, promises must be kept, and when you are wrong, you apologize instead of argue. 



Free from pride and unconcerned with appearances, Kevin is not afraid to cry when he is hurt, angry or sorry. He is always transparent, always sincere. And he trusts God. 



Not confined by intellectual reasoning, when he comes to Christ, he comes as a child. Kevin seems to know God - to really be friends with Him in a way that is difficult for an 'educated' person to grasp. God seems like his closest companion. 



In my moments of doubt and frustrations with my Christianity, I envy the security Kevin has in his simple faith. 



It is then that I am most willing to admit that he has some divine knowledge that rises above my mortal questions. 



It is then I realize that perhaps he is not the one with the handicap. I am. My obligations, my fear, my pride, my circumstances - they all become disabilities when I do not trust them to God's care. 



Who knows if Kevin comprehends things I can never learn? After all, he has spent his whole life in that kind of innocence, praying after dark and soaking up the goodness and love of God. 



And one day, when the mysteries of heaven are opened, and we are all amazed at how close God really is to our hearts, I'll realize that God heard the simple prayers of a boy who believed that God lived under his bed.


But Kevin won't be surprised at all ! 



When you receive this, say a prayer. Thank God for the people He has put in your life, the ones He has brought across your path, so you could show some kindness, as well as the ones who challenge and take all your patience! 

Prayer is one of the best free gifts we receive. There may be no financial cost, but there are a lot of rewards. 


Someone once said:
FRIENDS ARE LIKE ANGELS WHO LIFT US TO OUR FEET AGAIN
WHEN OUR WINGS HAVE TROUBLE REMEMBERING HOW TO FLY

 

Friday, November 22, 2013

Executing a will

Not my ideal of a first post but a job that I feel many of you may find difficult ,like I have. All I really wanted to say ,as your circumstances will vary  from mine,  is to remind you
  • you have all our permission to take your time, provided you take the job seriously 
Taking the job seriously.

  • Knowing what the job is ( hoping an Aussie site might become available but this is good CLICK HERE  The lack of help available  is a great worry with individual lawyers all too often only answering your questions without giving you some perspective. You can't get the right answer unless you know the right question .
  • Some great help is probably available from the State Trustees in your area. ( if you are fortunate enough to still have a public service )
  • A few great sites whose focus is to help YOU know what you are doing and why you might be finding it difficult   CLICK HERE        
  • Llyod deals well with common problems , the challenges of coexecutorship, the risks  and keeping a sense of humor in the process
Please post any other sites you have found helpful .  Hope you find this helpful